Life priorities in 18 and 28
It is amazing how your understanding of what is important in life
changes within 10 years when things that were extremely important at 18 do not
even bother you at 28 and something that you were always against in the early
twenties becomes essential closer to the 30 year old bar.
Here are some of my insights:
I am always giggling when people told me that it is important to do
morning exercises, I was thinking ‘You are not THAT old to stretch your bones
and muscles every morning…unless you move during the day time’. – Now I started
appreciating morning exercises because they
Teach you time management skills – you need to find time to fit them
into yor schedule;
They make you focused for the rest of the day – I really do not know why
(maybe will have an answer to this question when I am 40 J) but you just
feel stronger, more relaxed and conscious.
Yes, conscious – that is another word that I was never using when I was
18. Thinking that only insane people and maybe psychologists should be always
conscious because it is so boring (and that is taking into consideration that I
have a degree in psychology as well – definitely questioning myself now about
the logics).
Now I think that consciousness is one of the most important things
because, when there are so many events in our life, everything becomes so
interrelated that you stop understanding where your own emotions are and where –
there are just reflections of other people’s emotions.
I have started appreciating meditation, when a couple of years ago I was
thinking that there is nothing to learn and everyone can do that – just sit, do
not move and do not think about anything. After I have talked with some Buddhists
and tried to meditate myself I have realised how hard it is and that there is
so much to learn and to practise.
Also, when I was 18, I was thinking that life is very simple and I know
the answer to every question – that is why I was always surprised when my mum
or dad said to me ‘I don’t know’ when I was asking their advice. At that point
for me it was something beyond my understanding and I thought that they are not
feeling my problems, expressing compassion…
Now I know that,
- first of all, it is a great luck when someone, in general, is willing to listen to your problems and you need to appreciate just a simple fact that people want to dive into your ocean of problems
- and, secondly, sometimes ‘I do not know’ is the real, genuine answer … because we really do not know how things are going to unfold in our life.
As my mum was saying me the other day when I have told her my thoughts –
‘Julia, youth is such a flaw that does not take much time to get rid of’ J
